I Believe in Empowering Women, but I’m not a Feminist

I am a woman in the technology field, and I am all for empowering more women into technology fields or science fields. There certainly are not enough of us, but I refuse to call myself a feminist. I believe in equality for both sexes. A feminist by today’s standards seems to be a way to bash men and as a mother of two boys, I can not support that. It should be about being a decent human being and treating one another with respect.

I hate these new terms being thrown around, “manterrupting”, “bropropriate”. Why do we have to victimize ourselves against men? It’s hard to be taken seriously when we are throwing around made up words where their only purpose is to bash men. How can we take a stand for equality when we are drawing a line between men and women ourselves?

I think to be in this field, especially if you are looking to grow in your career, you have to have a strong backbone, that goes for men and women. You need to have a strong, supporting argument if you want to make an impact. You also have to have the confidence to speak it and keep pushing on the subject if you stand firm in your opinion.

The fact is people interrupt people. It’s disrespectful, but it isn’t always meant to be. Sometimes people are just passionate about their view and want to get that across. Unless someone directly says, your point isn’t worth listening to, I don’t think we should be reading so much into it. The fact is that people of both sexes can be rude and impolite.

Finally, I don’t want to be referred to as a feminist because I enjoy being feminine. I can have it all. I can be smart, well-groomed, trendy, a super-mom, a geek/nerd, I can be all of it. I don’t need to hand in my heels and red lipstick because I want to viewed as one of the men or because I’m in a technology field. I’m just going to do me. I have never been one to conform to labels. I hate labels. And I think that is what we really need to rid ourselves of to start having equality between the sexes.

Source: Kathleen Edison’s illustrated guide, inspired by Jessica Bennett’s article

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